What types of stories will I be sharing?
Stories of female travelers that are married and/or have children and give themselves the space to travel solo.
With these stories I want to dispel the idea that solo travel is only for single women. I know so many amazing women who are moms and/or in committed relationships that enjoy solo travel. I hope that these stories help more Latinas overcome their limiting beliefs and help them enjoy the gift to solo travel.
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For today’s spotlight, please meet Elena Ayala. Please tell us a little about yourself Elena and your solo travel experience:
“My solo travel experience didn’t start out of curiosity, but instead out of need. I’m an only child who moved to California in 2017, leaving my mother in my home city of Monterrey, Mexico.
In November 2021, in the middle of my immigration process I had to request a special permission from USCIS to leave the country to go see my sick mother. I spent a whole month taking care of her during her last days in the hospital. All of a sudden, I had to be the adult handling the situation: funeral services, will, house, bank accounts, etc. I was no longer a child.
After lots of therapy and processing grief, my husband encouraged me to visit my extended family whenever I felt like it. Sometimes he would accompany me, but not always. This reinforced the idea that we don’t own each other and that we complement each other instead. I started going a few months after her passing.
My mother, even though she was a great mother, had put ideas in my head that it was wrong. Her generation had grown up with the very conservative idea that women should serve their husbands day and night.
Even though I don’t travel solo a lot, I’m not afraid anymore. My husband thinks very differently. He’s very open minded and has taught me to enjoy myself, regardless of who I’m with. We have a very strong relationship.
Everyone and everything was fine. I no longer carry that anxiety on me anymore.
I come back from my solo trips having learnt more about myself such as things I like and don’t like about life in general. I always come back with new stories to share with family and friends.
With conversations I’ve had with other women in my life I see that education around codependency needs to happen. We need to know when it’s okay and when it’s not. Educating ourselves about faithfulness and loyalty happens within ourselves and travels with us.
A few days into a solo trip, I miss my partner and I’m excited to tell him everything, but I’m also enjoying myself. A personal challenge I tend to deal with is that sometimes I find myself trying to get approval from my husband. He doesn’t care in the funniest way. An example is me asking him if he thinks I can buy tickets for an expensive show. His response would be, “I don’t know, can you?”
It’s important that women know that they are not property of their partners. They are their own person who shares their life with someone special. That someone special deserves consideration when planning anything without them, but at the end, your individual needs deserve to be addressed to.”
“Austin / San Antonio as these 2 cities are very close to each other, and I have very special friends who live there that I always want to share chismecito with.”
“I met a famous person, who my partner would have dreamed of meeting. I got to share that with him. I was happy and he fulfilled a dream through me.”
“I’m very careful and actively aware of my surroundings. I’m always at places with lots of people. I try to prioritize public transport over Uber or Lyft.”
“When planning for trips, I only take into consideration important dates or previous commitments. I’m also mindful of the money I spend when I go on trips.”
Elena’s experience shows that solo travel can be an empowering act of self-care, even when it stems from difficult circumstances. Though hesitant at first, she found that solo travel allowed her to reconnect with family, learn about herself, and strengthen her relationships. Elena emphasizes the importance of women understanding that they are not property – they are whole people who choose to share life with a partner. Her story proves that with open communication and trust, solo travel can benefit individuals, couples, and families alike. Elena’s wisdom and adventurous spirit is an inspiration. I hope her perspective gives more Latinas the courage to travel solo and gift themselves that profoundly rewarding experience.
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Let’s continue to shatter stereotypes and celebrate the richness of women’s travel experiences. Stay tuned for more readers’ stories.